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Louise McMeel's avatar

Thank you for writing this. Some of this hit hard!

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ANGELICA 🌹's avatar

Fab!!!

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Rahma's avatar

Thank you for this. I feel a lot better about my house 🩷

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david gorton's avatar

I am stuck on 21 and 22. I spent much of my life determined to be right, such that an apology was an admission of error and failure and hence a challenge to my nature and identity. In short, I was an asshole. Following some reflection on this I have got much better at apologising, but you are leading me to question whether I have become too comfortable with the process. Thanks!!

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Andi Alexander's avatar

This is one of the reasons I subscribe to you, Laura!!

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gnashy's avatar

I find #29 poignant but confusing. Is the one with the deep, solid, resounding and profoundly comforting knowledge that they already value you as you are the lover or the loved? And why?

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Diana M. Wilson's avatar

As listicles go...this one's awesome.

And I'd really like to know if you ever figured out who the heck Martin is.

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Laura Kennedy's avatar

I trust he’ll reveal himself in the fullness of time (ie no).

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Doris Dobi's avatar

Brilliant!

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Chen Rafaeli's avatar

It can't be we had the same father, right?...

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Peter Allmark's avatar

"The ability to remain calm when other people don’t is a criminally underrated life skill."

I'm glad Kipling hadn't heard about life skills when he wrote his version. There was also the parody "If you can keep your head when all around etc" to which was added "then you've probably misunderstood the situation."

But a nice list anyway.

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Mike Sowden's avatar

There is much that is thoughtful, wise and true in this excellent article.

I refuse to listen to any of it.

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Laura Kennedy's avatar

That’s very sensible of you Mike.

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Mike Sowden's avatar

I completely disagree with that as well.

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Martin Hughes's avatar

Great list.

Though still waiting on that call.

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Cecilia Stanford's avatar

Philosophy is not self-help, but it may help you stop lying to yourself.

The first part may or may not be true, and the second part is definitely true for me,” but then i have never really studied Philosophy. My attitude is more of a “practice makes more perfect sense” approach to Life, and failing that, just keep going with as much humor that I can muster.

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Graham Landi's avatar

Regarding 9. I’m currently decorating the stairs and landing, so I won’t be applying a second coat to the woodwork because Laura said I don’t have to.

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Laura Kennedy's avatar

Tell people it’s rustic.

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Graham Landi's avatar

I won’t need to tell them…

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Connie McClellan's avatar

My intellect is not quite broad enough to appreciate the current decor of the Oval Office.

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April's avatar

Great entry ! Sharing

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